As the clock ticks, the lingering change of my marital status is purely a matter of timing. It’s an arbitrary point, the passing of a calendar date, tied seemingly to a geographic location and its time zone too. At 12am PST tonight, as 2018 comes to a close, so legally does my marriage.Monday, December 31, 2018
Something Changes On New Years Day
As the clock ticks, the lingering change of my marital status is purely a matter of timing. It’s an arbitrary point, the passing of a calendar date, tied seemingly to a geographic location and its time zone too. At 12am PST tonight, as 2018 comes to a close, so legally does my marriage.
I'm tweaking my journalling approach a bit to further refine and streamline the posting process. I'm dropping titles and moving to a simple paragraph based posts. I want these to be a quick 'end of day' summary of things I'll want to remember and look back on, as well as gratitudes, improvements, anticipations and such as those fit my needs, but less forced and segmented.
The kid are going overnight with their mom tonight, i'll see them tomorrow mid-morning as the custody routine returns to normal. I"m glad they're doing something and I know it's a tradition she's got a strong attachment to, and likely some additional emotions around as well, given that tonight concludes our status as "married", a topic i'll set aside for another blog and likely another time. I'm glad the kids know they're very important to us, and loved. I'm hoping that 2019 allows for more stability, perhaps some healing, too.
The kid are going overnight with their mom tonight, i'll see them tomorrow mid-morning as the custody routine returns to normal. I"m glad they're doing something and I know it's a tradition she's got a strong attachment to, and likely some additional emotions around as well, given that tonight concludes our status as "married", a topic i'll set aside for another blog and likely another time. I'm glad the kids know they're very important to us, and loved. I'm hoping that 2019 allows for more stability, perhaps some healing, too.
Sunday, December 30, 2018
π Like A Corn In A Field I Cut You Down
HIGHLIGHTS: Slept in. Kids w/mom but went with Darius & kids to Dodge Ridge again. Ran some errands, stocked up on groceries, took down/out the tree, blah blah blah.
GRATITUDE: Glad to be coming to the end of a tough year, but hoping for a stable 2019.
IMPROVE: Keep meditating and focusing on being present and mindful.
ANTICIPATE: a stable 2019. Yeah, I know, redundant.
ROUTINES: Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
GRATITUDE: Glad to be coming to the end of a tough year, but hoping for a stable 2019.
IMPROVE: Keep meditating and focusing on being present and mindful.
ANTICIPATE: a stable 2019. Yeah, I know, redundant.
ROUTINES: Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
Saturday, December 29, 2018
π One Damn Song That Can Make Me Break Down And Cry
HIGHLIGHTS: Tommy finished his video. Dropped at Pano. Concerns raised about Cobra, initiated dialog w/HR to ensure no issues. Took Soulmate wine, a slew of videos on thumb drive and Whiskey to Jon/Cheryl's for dinner. Seriously one of the best meals of the year. Kale salad, stuffed mushrooms and 2" roast steaks w/Montreal Steak Seasoning. Lava chocolate/Whiskey dessert.
GRATITUDE: Friends. Jon lost a friend to pancreatic cancer last week, 70+, and I'm so grateful I've not lost close friends. Yet. It'll happen or it'll be me. I want to be prepared and prepare others for the inevitable.
IMPROVE: connections w/friends.
ANTICIPATE: a chill day tomorrow.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: Friends. Jon lost a friend to pancreatic cancer last week, 70+, and I'm so grateful I've not lost close friends. Yet. It'll happen or it'll be me. I want to be prepared and prepare others for the inevitable.
IMPROVE: connections w/friends.
ANTICIPATE: a chill day tomorrow.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Friday, December 28, 2018
π We Drank a Toast to Innocence
HIGHLIGHTS: Checked out of BlackOak, went to Dodge Ridge, and DAMN it was PACKED. Had to juggle some issues getting Lauren's rentals but the crew there is so awesome and all worked out fine. Lauren took ski lessons and was on them all day. Tommy took advanced snowboard lesson at the park. Darius and kids came up too. Walked about a bit, took photos, but back issues continue. Drove home, Tommy stayed to work on his video while Lauren stayed w/her mom.
GRATITUDE: Hearing. I know it's not what it was, hearing tests and my kids have made me aware, but still, i am grateful to hear at all; the sound of ice as I kicked it today and the sound of birds, people, wind in the trees yesterday… all things to not take for granted.
IMPROVE: Exercise
ANTICIPATE: Dinner plans tomorrow night!
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: Hearing. I know it's not what it was, hearing tests and my kids have made me aware, but still, i am grateful to hear at all; the sound of ice as I kicked it today and the sound of birds, people, wind in the trees yesterday… all things to not take for granted.
IMPROVE: Exercise
ANTICIPATE: Dinner plans tomorrow night!
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Thursday, December 27, 2018
π I'll Be Cleaning Up Bottles With You
HIGHLIGHTS: Great day adventuring to "Big Trees" state park. Returned to a Prime Rib Buffett, bowling and watched "Titanic".
GRATITUDE: That I'm still alive. That I live where I do and when I do. Pioneers in years before me lived much harder lives with much shorter life spans.
IMPROVE: Keep getting out more often even for day trips. It's enriching.
ANTICIPATE: Snowshoes tomorrow.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting
GRATITUDE: That I'm still alive. That I live where I do and when I do. Pioneers in years before me lived much harder lives with much shorter life spans.
IMPROVE: Keep getting out more often even for day trips. It's enriching.
ANTICIPATE: Snowshoes tomorrow.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting
Wednesday, December 26, 2018
π When The Bells All Ring...
HIGHLIGHTS: Dodge Ridge w/kids. Planning out 2019 goals and priorities (1st pass high level). Nice walk around, will be doing some Sonora local stuff like Big Trees tomorrow and enjoying the bowling and pool and stuff at the Resort. Lauren’s gonna try sking on Friday.
GRATITUDE: I love my kids character. They’re both really good people.
IMPROVE: Keep working on flexibility.
ANTICIPATE: Sleeping in!
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting
GRATITUDE: I love my kids character. They’re both really good people.
IMPROVE: Keep working on flexibility.
ANTICIPATE: Sleeping in!
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting
Tuesday, December 25, 2018
π While the Merry Bells Keep Ringing
HIGHLIGHTS: Lazy Christmas spent prepping for the trip. Hate driving at night these days. Made it fine. Decent room, crappy casino food and smoke smell even though it's non-smoking. It'll do for this trip though. It is what it is.
GRATITUDE: Called and talked to Paula. Like her mindset very much. "The Book" is really great and I'm getting a lot out of it.
IMPROVE: Patience w/getting kids on a trip - I'm too strident.
ANTICIPATE: Spending tomorrow doing some 2019 plans and projections.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: Called and talked to Paula. Like her mindset very much. "The Book" is really great and I'm getting a lot out of it.
IMPROVE: Patience w/getting kids on a trip - I'm too strident.
ANTICIPATE: Spending tomorrow doing some 2019 plans and projections.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Monday, December 24, 2018
π Then One Foggy Christmas Eve
HIGHLIGHTS: Brunch w/the kids, my mom, Lindsey/Ryan. Food was excellent, and we had a nice time. Kids enjoyed it too. Lazy afternoon. Watched Scrooge and It's a Wonderful Life.
GRATITUDE: I love the history I have w/those movies, long into my youth, and it makes me happy to watch them annually.
IMPROVE: It was good to mediate - I like doing it daily and need to make it a priority.
ANTICIPATE: Going to Black Oak and Dodge Ridge starting tomorrow PM.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: I love the history I have w/those movies, long into my youth, and it makes me happy to watch them annually.
IMPROVE: It was good to mediate - I like doing it daily and need to make it a priority.
ANTICIPATE: Going to Black Oak and Dodge Ridge starting tomorrow PM.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Sunday, December 23, 2018
π Yule-Tide Carols Being Sung by a Choir
HIGHLIGHTS: Against my better judgement I let Tommy take the computer home. Conflicts ensued at his home with his mom. Lesson learned, won't make the same mistake again. Ran kids to get a gift for their mom so she's got something under the tree, something Lauren's lovingly mindful of, and I appreciate that aspect of her character. Ran w/Jen to get food for open house tomorrow. Made a Ruben Strada. She made French Toast casserole. Reached out to Austin but no response yet, but hoping he'll come by (there will be cookies for 'em).
GRATITUDE: I love my kids and their good hearts and good nature.
IMPROVE: Hard not getting trigged by Tommy's tone at times but I listened to some reminders on podcasts about empathy and acknowledgement of his perspective and struggles.
ANTICIPATE: Tomorrow's gathering.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: I love my kids and their good hearts and good nature.
IMPROVE: Hard not getting trigged by Tommy's tone at times but I listened to some reminders on podcasts about empathy and acknowledgement of his perspective and struggles.
ANTICIPATE: Tomorrow's gathering.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Saturday, December 22, 2018
π Happy Golden Days of Yore
HIGHLIGHTS: Dodge Ridge run - solo w/kids. Setup for return 12/26 lessons. I read, and lazed, and tidied up the locker.
GRATITUDE: I am grateful we've never had car issues or an accident going back/forth. That path can be crazy and some folks drive like assholes.
IMPROVE: More stretching and back reinforcing needed before trying to ski.
ANTICIPATE: Getting ready for some kids/mom/niece time on Monday.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting
GRATITUDE: I am grateful we've never had car issues or an accident going back/forth. That path can be crazy and some folks drive like assholes.
IMPROVE: More stretching and back reinforcing needed before trying to ski.
ANTICIPATE: Getting ready for some kids/mom/niece time on Monday.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting
Friday, December 21, 2018
π Jingle Bell Time Is A Swell Time
HIGHLIGHTS: Great stay in SF, worked there for the AM and home for the PM. Kids with me for the night and we're going to Dodge Ridge early tomorrow.
GRATITUDE: I'm doing well with my diet, lost a few pounds, and that's inspirational.
IMPROVE: Kids come to me w/irritation as a baseline and it's hard to handle. But when i think about it, i get it, and I want to help by not responding.
ANTICIPATE: A low key drive and relaxing day at DR.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting
GRATITUDE: I'm doing well with my diet, lost a few pounds, and that's inspirational.
IMPROVE: Kids come to me w/irritation as a baseline and it's hard to handle. But when i think about it, i get it, and I want to help by not responding.
ANTICIPATE: A low key drive and relaxing day at DR.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting
Thursday, December 20, 2018
π A Corncob Pipe & A Button Nose
HIGHLIGHTS: Work went well - code frozen late afternoon for the break. Snagged a white shirt and decent tie at Savers before finding my Christmas Tie at home. Worked from SF for the PM in advance of the holiday party. Clift hotel as an awesome bar and unique furniture and decor. "The academy" was a blast too. Ended with a breakfast at "Pinecrest" diner.
GRATITUDE: I am fortunate to live near and have access to a big city and all that it contains.
ANTICIPATE: I am looking forward to starting to read "Before I Go" which will likely become a focus of 2019.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness WorkFocus
GRATITUDE: I am fortunate to live near and have access to a big city and all that it contains.
ANTICIPATE: I am looking forward to starting to read "Before I Go" which will likely become a focus of 2019.
ROUTINES: Meditation Mindfulness WorkFocus
Wednesday, December 19, 2018
π Hurry Down The Chimney Tonight
HIGHLIGHTS: Nice early morning w/Jen. Frustrated though by the Withins "Smart Scale" - tweeted about it. Received a sale-pitch email from a vendor to my work address trying to leverage my blog post as a reference. Wrote him and CEO directly. Also got visibly irritated at work w/M and T over a release plan and I had to present about our sprint not going as well in Sprint Review… basically spent the 1st 2/3 in a shit mood. Ironic that I'm all about 'gratitude' huh? Received the final court docs and it hit home. But also learned the property tax portion of the agreement has me paying 2x for 3m (she made me aware via an email response about direct deposit amounts). Blogged and posted about that too. Oh and Lauren's wonderful stocking stuffer photo series. Stayed up and did some VR stuff UTI.
GRATITUDE: I'm glad I have writing as a creative and emotional outlet.
IMPROVE: Temperament over stupid shit like a scale that is hard to get to pair … world ≠ perfect... it happens, get over it.
ANTICIPATE: The afternoon/evening in SF for XMAS event.
ROUTINES: Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
GRATITUDE: I'm glad I have writing as a creative and emotional outlet.
IMPROVE: Temperament over stupid shit like a scale that is hard to get to pair … world ≠ perfect... it happens, get over it.
ANTICIPATE: The afternoon/evening in SF for XMAS event.
ROUTINES: Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Stocking Stuffer
Singled Out

Tuesday, December 18, 2018
π Christmas Time Is Here
HIGHLIGHTS: Kids dropped on time, got some Philz, a P0 issue at work around a release that broke a checkbox feature. Managed it. Finished binge watching "The Story of Film" series. Really expansive and enlightening. May mess with the Oculus Go a bit later. TBD.
GRATITUDE: Heat. Seriously. It's so nice to have access to warmth when it's cold outside. It would be a rough existence to live homeless.
IMPROVE: Be more patient with interruptions and distractions.
ANTICIPATE: I'm looking forward to reading "Simplify Your Life" again, which arrived today.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
GRATITUDE: Heat. Seriously. It's so nice to have access to warmth when it's cold outside. It would be a rough existence to live homeless.
IMPROVE: Be more patient with interruptions and distractions.
ANTICIPATE: I'm looking forward to reading "Simplify Your Life" again, which arrived today.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Monday, December 17, 2018
π Deck the Halls with Advertising
HIGHLIGHTS: Dropped Tommy late in order for him to get shoes from home. Horrible traffic on 85 getting to work, even with Karl. Good onsite time, good 'life' conversation w/Mike and Eric, recognizing that we are 'winning' in life by remaining alive while more fall around us. Also, fasted for the full day, hoping it gets me on a downward trend.
GRATITUDE: I'm glad I'm alive. I want to live long enough to have my passing be anticipated and accepted by those I love.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: I'm glad I'm alive. I want to live long enough to have my passing be anticipated and accepted by those I love.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
Sunday, December 16, 2018
π I've Seen That Movie Too
HIGHLIGHTS: Kids with me, Tommy just wanted to chill out while we ran a few errands. I stumbled across and started watching a 15hr documentary, "The Story of Film", and it's awesome. Lauren stayed with her mom for the night and and Tommy stayed with me.
GRATITUDE: I'm nervous about the year ahead but grateful we can afford a decent Christmas.
IMPROVE: I still am failing to stick to my guns on food choices. It's hard being surrounded by holiday treats. :-/
ANTICIPATE: I rescheduled my 'meeting of the minds' meeting w/RP to tomorrow and hope it's a good time to try and reinstated it.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
GRATITUDE: I'm nervous about the year ahead but grateful we can afford a decent Christmas.
IMPROVE: I still am failing to stick to my guns on food choices. It's hard being surrounded by holiday treats. :-/
ANTICIPATE: I rescheduled my 'meeting of the minds' meeting w/RP to tomorrow and hope it's a good time to try and reinstated it.
ROUTINES: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Saturday, December 15, 2018
π They Tried To Make Me Go To Rehab
HIGHLIGHTS: Kids were at Dodge Ridge, had a chance to sleep in before heading to Martin Ranch for a wonderful experience - wine pairing. John/Cheryl joined us. It was delicious and informative and inspirational as to 'plant based diet' options, too. Jon sent us home with incredible brittle to enjoy. Watched some Christmas Movies while doing assorted tasks.
GRATITUDE: My efforts to gain and maintain gratitude through mindfulness and the progress I feel I've made.
IMPROVE: Spend even less time with tech. I've reduced, but can even more.
ANTICIPATE: Honestly… a good solid sleep for a change.
ROUTINES: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
GRATITUDE: My efforts to gain and maintain gratitude through mindfulness and the progress I feel I've made.
IMPROVE: Spend even less time with tech. I've reduced, but can even more.
ANTICIPATE: Honestly… a good solid sleep for a change.
ROUTINES: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
Friday, December 14, 2018
π Snap Back To Reality, Oh There Goes Gravity
I did it. I walked 1 mile this am as planned. I felt some back pain doing so, though. It seemed to aggravate it but I'll keep trying and doing stretches too. The Calm Masterclass on gratitude titled "Barriers to Gratitude" was so good I listened to it twice on the way to work. Tough sprint planning today, I want to find a better process. Our company lunch was at Kabul but hard to hear and not as interactive as I would like. Geek night at Mo's: Tomato Soup/Grilled cheese was delicious but made me sleepy and bloated. I'm officially old, I'm writing down my food and ailments :-).
I'm grateful for the support of my friends. They've been very interested in my well being all these years.
I am looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow and having a calm day.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
I'm grateful for the support of my friends. They've been very interested in my well being all these years.
I am looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow and having a calm day.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Thursday, December 13, 2018
π This Is The Price Of Honesty
Started my day getting both kids to school. Had to drop Tommy's snowboard off at Pano beforehand. Met with Tom and "signed" documents. Felt so weird, still does, still processing it all. Work was relatively uneventful. GNO postponed a day until tomorrow.
I'm lucky I'm in a position to have the ability to resolve the agreement and provide for my kids, their mom and myself. Things could be so much more difficult.
I am hugely failing on the simple task fo walking daily. It's getting embarrassing. Tomorrow AM I'm walking 1 mile once I wake up. Dammit.
GNO tomorrow - lots of things going on for all of us, so I am anticipating some poignant discussions.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
I'm lucky I'm in a position to have the ability to resolve the agreement and provide for my kids, their mom and myself. Things could be so much more difficult.
I am hugely failing on the simple task fo walking daily. It's getting embarrassing. Tomorrow AM I'm walking 1 mile once I wake up. Dammit.
GNO tomorrow - lots of things going on for all of us, so I am anticipating some poignant discussions.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
Wednesday, December 12, 2018
Measure Up to the Golden Rule

This should not be complicated at all. We live in a society. Our society has rules. Etiquette, common sense, consideration, etc. You don't cut people off at intersections, you don't play your music loud in my neighborhood, you don't steal, whether it's a newspaper from someone's front yard or their life savings in an internet scam. You don't fart in an elevator (occupied or not). You drive calmly and safely. You don't swear, or at least if you're going to, you watch for children or other people and give consideration to what might be offensive.
π I Wonder What Tomorrow Has In Mind For Me
Got kids to school on time. Was going to head to RWC but meetings were cancelled and I worked from home instead. Made some decisions about changes to make in 2019 to elevate engagement and growth. Took Lindsey to dinner at "Tomato Thyme" w/the kids and we had a great time. Passed a 2013 Malbec her way to introduce to a friend. Kids are here tonight.
I'm grateful to be hopefully wrapping up the legal issues.
I want to increase my recognition of the interpersonal dynamics that I don't want to be a part of, or have in my life. Without judgment, there's only so much time left for me to enjoy and grow in my own ways without the drama of others having selfish objectives.
I'm optimistic that the closure on the personal dramas will open up more time for stabilization and return to form in multiple ways.
Accomplishments: Meditation Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
I'm grateful to be hopefully wrapping up the legal issues.
I want to increase my recognition of the interpersonal dynamics that I don't want to be a part of, or have in my life. Without judgment, there's only so much time left for me to enjoy and grow in my own ways without the drama of others having selfish objectives.
I'm optimistic that the closure on the personal dramas will open up more time for stabilization and return to form in multiple ways.
Accomplishments: Meditation Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
Tuesday, December 11, 2018
π I’ve Done Everything For You…
WFH. Good series of meetings/exchanges around several tasks. Didn't leave the house, though, and I should, daily, when i'm WFH. Even to walk the block. Get out and move more. DailyCalm has released a "Gratitude" series and i'm very excited about it, it falls right in line with this journal and my efforts to maintain conscious gratitude. Kids got dropped, Tommy brought his "hydro-dipped" board and it looks pretty cool. He went to scouts, Lauren/I made a Costco run and got some things for Dodge Ridge if they go this weekend.
I'm grateful for my health. It's really striking to have serious back pain and imagine living with it permanently, or with any other condition that significantly impacts my mobility.
I want to improve my daily work focus in the PM as it starts to scatter. I want to set to a task each day.
I am going to RWC tomorrow and I hope to go early and get a good walk around the property in while listing to the new MasterClass.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
I'm grateful for my health. It's really striking to have serious back pain and imagine living with it permanently, or with any other condition that significantly impacts my mobility.
I want to improve my daily work focus in the PM as it starts to scatter. I want to set to a task each day.
I am going to RWC tomorrow and I hope to go early and get a good walk around the property in while listing to the new MasterClass.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
Monday, December 10, 2018
π Well Maybe Just A Half A Drink More
Went into RWC office for meetings, drove up/back w/out any distractions, music, radio, audiobooks… nothing. Just space. It was refreshing. Found it good to be onsite but frustrating to feel micromanaged on recruiting tasks. Grrr. Focused on cleanup of the house. Wrestled further w/the “smart home” plug for the kettle and I’m doing one more test to isolate the root cause as the socket or the kettle itself. Sorta fun in a challenging way. Went to Savers briefly but it’s getting old. Watched some music and youtube documentaries. Listened to more “The Book”… it’s interesting.
Today was “Human Rights Day”. I’m so grateful that I’m a part of a collection of people who ‘want’ this sort of society, even in the face of opposition.
The back issues are reducing and the nightly stretching helps, as does movement, so the momentum needs to be continued and maintained.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Today was “Human Rights Day”. I’m so grateful that I’m a part of a collection of people who ‘want’ this sort of society, even in the face of opposition.
The back issues are reducing and the nightly stretching helps, as does movement, so the momentum needs to be continued and maintained.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Sunday, December 09, 2018
π Instead We'll Fall Away Then Melt Like Snow
Went to Dodge Ridge, Victoria came with us and her family drove up in parallel. Spent the full day there. Victoria got hurt, Tommy was very considerate, and their falling asleep on the way back was sweet. Lauren wanted a new helmet and sweatshirt as an early Christmas present. Jen/I just hung out it was super chill and I was so happy to just 'be' in nature and share that with her. Read from "The Book on the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are". We walked around/about Dodge Ridge. Lastly, replied to attorney re final draft w/a few clarifications and corrections.
m so proud of both of my kids, they're really wonderful people who're very clearly coming into their own and it's beautiful to watch.
The stretching seems to help my back, and I'll keep doing it.
I'm crossing my fingers that the agreement feedback is managed quickly and we can move on.
Accomplishments: Stretching Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
m so proud of both of my kids, they're really wonderful people who're very clearly coming into their own and it's beautiful to watch.
The stretching seems to help my back, and I'll keep doing it.
I'm crossing my fingers that the agreement feedback is managed quickly and we can move on.
Accomplishments: Stretching Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Saturday, December 08, 2018
π I Was the Walrus, But Now, I'm John
Dropped kids ~30min late so we could not rush, and I dropped Tommy at Planet Granite for Boy Scout event. Picked up, setup and decorated a Christmas Tree for the house. Looks nice. Simple. Prep’d for tomorrow’s Dodge Ridge run, we’re taking Viktorija w/us and her family’s driving up in parallel. Taking a few things to stock the locker (water, bars, Gatorade). Back issues continue but I’m repeating the stretching again tonight.
I’m glad I ‘caved’ on Lauren going to iHop last night. I picked her up around 11.45pm and she’d had a great time. The whole crew/cast went. Its heartwarming to see her growing, being with friends, and becoming her own self.
I want to put some more time into writing on my other blog, without stopping this daily effort. I may streamline these daily entries, but not much more.
3hrs each way is a long drive, but I’m looking forward to seeing them back on the snow, to writing, reading, and getting back into the routine of this for the season ahead.
Accomplishments: Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
Dropped kids ~30min late so we could not rush, and I dropped Tommy at Planet Granite for Boy Scout event. Picked up, setup and decorated a Christmas Tree for the house. Looks nice. Simple. Prep’d for tomorrow’s Dodge Ridge run, we’re taking Viktorija w/us and her family’s driving up in parallel. Taking a few things to stock the locker (water, bars, Gatorade). Back issues continue but I’m repeating the stretching again tonight.
I’m glad I ‘caved’ on Lauren going to iHop last night. I picked her up around 11.45pm and she’d had a great time. The whole crew/cast went. Its heartwarming to see her growing, being with friends, and becoming her own self.
I want to put some more time into writing on my other blog, without stopping this daily effort. I may streamline these daily entries, but not much more.
3hrs each way is a long drive, but I’m looking forward to seeing them back on the snow, to writing, reading, and getting back into the routine of this for the season ahead.
Accomplishments: Stretching Mindfulness Cleanup
Friday, December 07, 2018
π You’ve Got To Be Cruel To Be Kind
Dropped kids at the respective times and took off to work. Karl helped. Got to work, parked in a different space, and set about the day. Back issues continue but seem moderately better. Worked through the AM and left at lunch and WFH for the PM. Took Lauren's iphone for a new screen given that the shattered one finally gave out, to Apple LG, snagged a burrito for Tommy from Andale (stamp card = free), and he worked at Cub Scouts w/Mark and others helping w/a project. I returned to get him and he was praised by several. Lauren surprised me as I was going to get her wanting to go out w/her cast mates to IHOP and I conceded. It was a bit hard to 'let go' but she was with a parent and other kids and they're having fun and It's time to let her be more independent. I got a response from my attorney as to the settlement status that's left me dumbstruck but I'll deal with that elsewhere. Started listening to "The Book" by Alan Watts (audio) while doing some floor stretches (back pain) after getting house picked up.
I'm sincerely glad I found my attorney, who has always been very rational and reasonable and supportive of the venting anger and frustrations being balanced by the sincere good intentions and priorities.
I need to keep working the stretching into my day. I've yet to prioritize and maintain the movement ritual and damn, it's clearly needed.
I'm looking forward to having time alone tomorrow to process the latest.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
I'm sincerely glad I found my attorney, who has always been very rational and reasonable and supportive of the venting anger and frustrations being balanced by the sincere good intentions and priorities.
I need to keep working the stretching into my day. I've yet to prioritize and maintain the movement ritual and damn, it's clearly needed.
I'm looking forward to having time alone tomorrow to process the latest.
Accomplishments: Meditation Stretching Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
Thursday, December 06, 2018
☹️ Don’t You Know That You’re Toxic?
Horrible sleepless night due to back issue. Starting to wonder WTF is behind this. Having walked last night seemed to make it worse. I'm a bit concerned about the planned Dodge Ridge trip Sunday. Workday was ok, WFH, went to Crema for the AM, had lunch w/Jen and returned to WFH for the remainder of the day. Email exchange as final decision around settlement … uh… settle. Lauren was doing theater tech so it was Tommy solo. We ordered PF Changs because they manage allergens. Watched some YouTube stuff. I got Lauren at 10 and we settled in quickly.
I have to say that I'm grateful for the fact that even though I'm "old", and when I see photos I see somebody older than I feel, i'm grateful that I don't seem to look as old as some of my peers might. I'm not dying my hair yet, anyway.
I and tightly focusing my reading/listening to mindfulness. I need to keep this focus going because it's helping my perspective to do so, and i'm too easily derailed if I don't.
I'm looking forward to hopefully hearing some good and final news tomorrow.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
I have to say that I'm grateful for the fact that even though I'm "old", and when I see photos I see somebody older than I feel, i'm grateful that I don't seem to look as old as some of my peers might. I'm not dying my hair yet, anyway.
I and tightly focusing my reading/listening to mindfulness. I need to keep this focus going because it's helping my perspective to do so, and i'm too easily derailed if I don't.
I'm looking forward to hopefully hearing some good and final news tomorrow.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
Wednesday, December 05, 2018
π I Am So Fucking Grateful For My Ex
Started the day with a response to further volley of efforts to finalize the agreement. I am really angry about it, too, but that's a topic for another time and blog post. Back feeling better but still hurting. Monthly team meeting went well, better than I'd expected. Appreciated RP's calling out of the 'days before Geoff' when site uptime and latency were routine issues. Walked to Smart/Final w/Jen, then made a joint-effort to tackle bedroom cleaning which went great. Lauren told me about dropping her phone. I'm not happy about it but it's been a long time since the last one. I just can't afford a replacement right now.
I'm grateful for the relationship I have with my kids. It's wonderful.
I'm going to keep making daily efforts to maintain my meditation and movement routines they give me great satisfaction.
I'm looking forward to going to have lunch at Intel tomorrow.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
I'm grateful for the relationship I have with my kids. It's wonderful.
I'm going to keep making daily efforts to maintain my meditation and movement routines they give me great satisfaction.
I'm looking forward to going to have lunch at Intel tomorrow.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness WorkFocus Cleanup
Tuesday, December 04, 2018
Over Booked

π The Book Of Love Has Music In It
Dropped kids at Leigh together at 7pm (Lauren missed "0" Period). WFH day. Scattered focus, meetings, issues. Back issue from yesterday continued. Phone screened "Vlad" and passed resume around Sr dev team. Went to Savers Senior Tues, got kids some T's. Listened to Snow Patrol "Wildness" and it's growing on me.
I"m glad that I'm managing well with routines. It's hard sometimes to stay consistent. I missed mediations and a few others but not for long and I remain conscious and focused on reducing my expectations about what I accomplish vs what I give up by accomplishing.
Another day, another fail on walking. The morning routine was working well. But between kids and commute, Tue/Thurs may be my only options, if i'm being realistic. I need to revisit my routine breakdowns.
I'm looking forward to being at the office tomorrow. The drive really REALLY sucks but being there is something i'm coming to enjoy again. It's nice to feel that way.
Accomplishments: Meditation Mindfulness Cleanup
I"m glad that I'm managing well with routines. It's hard sometimes to stay consistent. I missed mediations and a few others but not for long and I remain conscious and focused on reducing my expectations about what I accomplish vs what I give up by accomplishing.
Another day, another fail on walking. The morning routine was working well. But between kids and commute, Tue/Thurs may be my only options, if i'm being realistic. I need to revisit my routine breakdowns.
I'm looking forward to being at the office tomorrow. The drive really REALLY sucks but being there is something i'm coming to enjoy again. It's nice to feel that way.
Accomplishments: Meditation Mindfulness Cleanup
Monday, December 03, 2018
☹️ You're Moving Quite Slow, How Far Can We Go
Only Tommy stayed last night, both are with me tonight. Got him off to school and went straight into work. Karl rode alone. Listened to Podcasts. About 1hr into work my back started to seize up and was horrible for the rest of the day. A walk to the old building and then Nob Hill didn't help. Painful as hell. Heating pad, CBD, BenGay, nothing really helped. Just rode it out. Ate dinner at the table together and talked about winter break and snow ideas. TBD. They did dog training w/Lucky. I'd gotten more tweaks in negotiation emails and asked my attorney to step in and close this w/her attorney. I'm losing patience.
I am grateful for Jennifer. So grateful. I read an article last night that had the line "You'll find your kindred spirits. I can count the number of people who I think "get me" on one hand." and she is absolutely that to me. I'm stunned sometimes at how unconditionally accepted I am.
Clearly, this back issue needs attention and by attention I mean, effort. it's great to be going back into work but I need more than that. Daily walking. I'm whining about it daily, so maybe just fucking do it instead. That'll be a step in the right direction. Ha. Step. Get it?
It's supposed to rain tomorrow. Maybe i'll be lucky enough to get a walk in before it does but man, I do love a good storm.
Accomplishments: Movement Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
I am grateful for Jennifer. So grateful. I read an article last night that had the line "You'll find your kindred spirits. I can count the number of people who I think "get me" on one hand." and she is absolutely that to me. I'm stunned sometimes at how unconditionally accepted I am.
Clearly, this back issue needs attention and by attention I mean, effort. it's great to be going back into work but I need more than that. Daily walking. I'm whining about it daily, so maybe just fucking do it instead. That'll be a step in the right direction. Ha. Step. Get it?
It's supposed to rain tomorrow. Maybe i'll be lucky enough to get a walk in before it does but man, I do love a good storm.
Accomplishments: Movement Mindfulness WorkFocus Parenting Cleanup
Sunday, December 02, 2018
The Aftermath Of A Door Slam

Having heard earlier this year that she had mockingly sung "J-E-R-K" in a cheerleader-ish fashion after asking that she drop them off to me, which is what we agreed to in our parenting agreement, was fucked up. Ignoring me outright when I'm getting them at their house is fucked up. Saying to my daughter "I could tell you bad things about your dad but I'm a good person and I won't do that" is fucked up. I brushed it off with my daughter, but what's the bottom line message she's sending them? That I'm a bad person.
π Easy Come, Easy Go, Little High, Little Low
Kids spent the day at Dodge Ridge, so I had the day open. Shampoo'd Tommy's carpet, saw Bohemian Rhapsody (far from factual but fun). Tried to get a tree but GOBM was sold out, will try later this week.
David wrote that he 'left something for me' at mom's. I suspect it's the netsuke I so wanted. It was great seeing him at moms. Time's flying by, I should spend more time with him.
Once again, 'walking' fell to the wayside. And it still needs to be a priority. Maybe tomorrow I'll work it into my time in RWC.
I am excited to see the kids tonight. I missed them today, and I'm glad they had a good trip. It may end up being the best day for some time (weather wise) for them to have gone.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Cleanup
David wrote that he 'left something for me' at mom's. I suspect it's the netsuke I so wanted. It was great seeing him at moms. Time's flying by, I should spend more time with him.
Once again, 'walking' fell to the wayside. And it still needs to be a priority. Maybe tomorrow I'll work it into my time in RWC.
I am excited to see the kids tonight. I missed them today, and I'm glad they had a good trip. It may end up being the best day for some time (weather wise) for them to have gone.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Cleanup
Saturday, December 01, 2018
π You Fly So High Up In The Vanilla Sky
Kids at Linda's, but have coordinated going to Dodge Ridge w/Darius and Vicktoria. Pulled together their gear and board and dropped the racks w/Darius so they had the space for 3+ boards. David/Juila were down at mom's after going w/Marissa for her test results (all clear). Visited with them for a few hours. Watched some SouthPark, but not that into it. Switched to An Inconvenient Sequel. That's more my speed.
I'm sad to not be going w/the kids to Dodge Ridge w/the kids but I'm glad they're getting to go, and I'll take them again later this month.
I hope to get a good walk in tomorrow, it should be a nice morning.
I'm looking forward to the kids coming tomorrow night w/stories of their adventure.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
I'm sad to not be going w/the kids to Dodge Ridge w/the kids but I'm glad they're getting to go, and I'll take them again later this month.
I hope to get a good walk in tomorrow, it should be a nice morning.
I'm looking forward to the kids coming tomorrow night w/stories of their adventure.
Accomplishments: Mindfulness Parenting Cleanup
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