How I Present My Sincere Intent

I have written 100's emails back/forth exchanges with her over the past 3+ years as I/we have worked through this process.

 

I just came across this email I sent, it's from early 10/2016. And as I re-read it, I thought it very clearly articulated my focus and intention then, prior, and now.

 

I am posting it here so I see it more frequently, in order to reinforce for myself that I'm not 'the bad guy' I have felt myself to be.

To be honest, although this represents my sincere effort to communicate in a positive fashion, there's also ample examples of my taking a more aggressive "F U" approach too. Typically out of pure exasperation, frustration, aggravation, etc.

 

I'm no saint, but I'm not evil either. I'm just human.

That Snap You Heard Was My Breaking Point

I've reached a breaking point. I've spent 3+ years trying my best to make this divorce process as painless as possible. I've kept funding and providing for the home and kids and her, but to no avail. I transitioned slowly, coming home after work each night in order to have dinner, being at the home with them in the evenings, to gradually working into my own place and cutting back to 3 or 4 nights/week. Yet after 2 mediators, both of which she has bailed on for what I consider ridiculous and unreasonable reasons, after putting me $15,000+ in credit card debt and climbing, Well... I'm leaving the high road behind, and cutting through the brush with a vengeance.

I've told my lawyer to take off the gloves and to "end this".