Sat: Jen AM GOBM turns into Crema. We miss each other. I want to put time into tomorrow for us to do something. Linda 10-1.45; sleeping, removed, 5 out of 10. Kathy broached the funeral topic. Very apprehensive - did NOT want to talk about it. Doubt she’ll ever accept and reconcile this mess. Cathy/Jon visited, Austin visited. Kathy/I had a good talk about Tommy’s use/abuse of the debit card, clearing out Pano, her finding things of family heritage/value. Talked as well about Chris, Jennifer, my views, and her views. We heard each other and respected each other's points of view. That’s all I can ask for. Got my iPhone 7 replaced after issues with NFC arose. Spent the pm and next day jiggling handles as settings needed revisions. PITA but nice to get a new unit all the same.
Sun: Got details around Tommy’s use of Linda’s debit: ~$300 range. I told him last night and this am to not use it again and …. He still did. Then he reached out wanting to talk about school clothes and weekly food funds. Jen/I discussed and agreed on a fixed amount for each for clothes for the entire school year for shirts shoes shorts pants. Pretty simple. Tommy came home and we gave him the simple story, then I asked him to show me the deleted apple pay for his mom’s KPCU card. He deleted it then and there and lied about having done so earlier. He shrugged off that there were two charges this AM. I didn’t dive into that issue further as I needed more data and auditing. I have that worked out now. Meanwhile, they both now have funds and to his credit, he’s finding ways to get deals which I appreciate. And what this is about. Jen and I spent some time just meandering through LG together after dropping Lauren. Felt good to have some 1:1 time for awhile. I went to Panorama afterwards and cleared 3/4 of the crap around the dining room table. Filled the recycle bin 3/4 or so. Set aside all I could find that was or might be of importance. Photographed what I took and explained why in an email to Kathy, as well as pointed out what I thought might be of interest to her. Went to SRC. Kelly went earlier in the day and reported a really concerning experience but when I arrived and Kathy was there already she was doing pretty well. Still, she pissed me off towards the end and I had to stay conscious that she’s not all there. However what pissed me off is core behavior stuff, not tumor stuff. It’s a huge challenge to manage this. Returned and Jen was not having the radiation mask in the house. She said it was ‘bad energy’. WTF? Still, it’s not something I had a strong desire for and even passed on until I saw it in the recycle bin and thought ‘maybe there’s a point in keeping it’ and I’d just take it for now and hold until I worked out what that point might be. But I tossed it based on Jen’s discomfort. It’s a symbol to me of this experience and it’s intensity. Grim yes, but real. Yet I have photos and those won’t be something Jen has to have in a place she’ll stumble across or be disturbed by. Comprise works, this time. :-)