Highlights: The consumption of wine, carbs and sugars at our gathing last night caught up to me in the early morning. It was awful. I felt miserable for several hours. It really isn't open to discussion or negotiation at this stage. It's too high a price to pay in order to not feel like the party-pooper because I don't want to be up at 3am trying not to puke while riding out intestinal pain. True friends will understand and support my well being. Lauren's christmas gift to Tommy is to take him to Rush Creek, a sibling trip for the two of them, in mid- January. Tommy wants Jen and I to go but we don't want to. This is their trip not ours, and her gift to him. Jennifer is leaving this Tuesday for a full week on a road trip with her friend Cindy M. to Texas. Lauren's coming down tomorrow thru Wednesday.
Insights: I have come to a few turning points and realizations recently, with the help of my wonderful wife and sounding board. We both have. As she was revisiting the Scottie book earlier today she noted how, when we first got him in 2019, Linda had only three years left to live, and less than two before her diagnosis and decline. It struck me to reflect on that from the point of unknowing. It calls for introspection and awareness of our own unknowing. and for both of us the waste of time that's spent trying to win the approval of others. To the point of sacrificing our authentic selves. It will be a focus moving forward as we strive to make more deliberate choices about how we use the time we have to its fullest. I heard a song on my "Division" playlist while walking through the bedroom past the shelves that were once filled with Lindas belongings and now contain Jennefer's. I felt a wave of grief around the passing of time and the certainty that either of us will have to face such a transition in our own future. Balancing that level of awareness with gratitude to have had it at all is quite a challenge. I thought I had a better handle on this, but then the dog had to go and test my mettle.
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