I have a love of a handful of people whom I believe accept me somewhat unconditionally as if it's truly possible to achieve and receive completely unconditional acceptance. Everyone has boundaries and limitations. To some degree, we all look at others with a critical eye toward some aspect of their character or behavior that could be improved upon. According to us, that is. And our idea of how things should be.
I aspire not to judge, assume or conclude, yet it still happens. I was reminded of that recently when I saw a disturbing image of someone I would have judged differently had I not known them well. That stayed with me. I was also exposed to private insight about a friend revealed in an inebriated monologue. What is said while drunk is typically thought when sober. In yet another instance, an accusation surfaced against an individual reminiscent of an incident in a past work-related role that went unjustly wrong based solely on the optics of perception and not reason. I know all too well that my character has been judged harshly by those in my ex-wife's circle of influence who consider one side of the story to be the definitive perspective to hold.
Seeking to improve while never expecting the unrealistic ideal of perfection requires releasing judgments of myself and others and expectations to be other than anything and everything we are in this moment, as I would ask of them in return.