Sunday, November 20, 2022



Highlights: Jen slept in a bit later than I did. I spent some time in the garage thinking over how I wanted to approach the next step – consolidating and reducing all the various bins, boxes and drawers filled with assorted nails, screws, fasteners, tools, and so much more. I set up the folding table as a workspace and set about the task. I confronted Tommy about my desire to retrieve the 2nd power strip (which has more substantive use than just powering the mini-fridge) and the wood blocks he had put in place to raise that fridge. I got pushback and grief for it. My threshold for his abuse has passed, and although I didn't rage, I did throw the issues back at him as his problem: he's damaged by dysfunction, entitlement and utter disregard for any consideration or appreciation for what he has. Jen and I shopped for Thanksgiving supplies, and she's pretty upset that instead of being at our planned dinner, he'll be going to Kathy V's family's dinner instead. That's pretty fucked up, but the last thing I want is somebody around against their will. Still, Jen's hurt. She bought broccoli just for him, at his request. I understand her being upset. But with all of her family visiting, I'm sure she'll be fine. And he'll likely show up for part of it. Meanwhile, his car's noise is yet-another-concern and one more thing I need to follow up on addressing. My mental health issues are largely about this dynamic, but I also don't want to dwell on it daily. It's simply an ongoing struggle and theme. I did make good progress sorting out all the bits and pieces into the storage drawers and shelves. I probably got about 70% of it managed and threw out about 30% of what I started with. I don't need 500 nails from a bin I've had for 4 years and used maybe 10 of them during that time. While working with Lauren today about getting her Mini Cooper started, we discovered that somehow, she was off the plan, and I was as well! Jen contacted them, and it all got worked out, but we had to apply for Lauren's insurance independent of ours. The plans for this week have changed because of this. Instead of my going up Wed to hopefully fix and bring it down, she'll take the train and Jen, and I will take her back Saturday. If we can fix it and get it running, I'll drive it down that day or we'll wait to take next steps in the following week. All good. Still 1st world problem.