Sunday, May 09, 2021

Bird vs Window - wingspan & close up...

Mother's Day. Likely the last they'll have with their mom. Lauren's fully invested her morning and will return after work too Kids and I took her breakfast, Lauren and I ordered and picked it up and Tommy was there when we arrived. We ate, Tommy took off. I stuck around and organized and cleaned a bit, and left Lauren to hang until we pick her up at 1.30 for work. Letting her and Tommy manage Aqui dinner plans. This all remains surreal. I sorta let my feeling show w/Kathy D in a text about the absurdity of the presumptions and character attacks prior to this while it's all been one sided. I'm trying to stay focused on what matters to me, being my kids and compassion for her. There isn't a long road ahead, but it's going to be a rough journey. Friday night, Tommy overfilled his Audi w/oil and I tried to advise and help, was shut down promptly, yet the tow truck driver and friend of his somehow got him to do exactly what I said. Timeless. Left him to manage it. He's been staying at Pano more including overnight. I'm glad. It gives him space and a chance to feel what independent living is. Lauren told me last night that she might strive to travel abroad after high school, and that if her mom passes away she knows she can without my 'needing her' the way she has. I would be happy to see that happen for her. Jen and I had a good deep talk about the Linda situation and she voiced some concerns about it all. I defended at first but listened and processed, echoed and considered her feelings. I know this is strange. She's been supportive but it's hard. I get that.She's protecting and defending me from the fact that Linda's friends and family have had me painted as a bad person when Im not. Yes I made choices for my own happiness and well being that did not including staying in a unhealthy situation, but that's all. And if they choose to characterize me as anything else that's their problem. We are going to visit my mom this afternoon. She's seemingly recovered from her earlier issues but I'll learn more later.